So I came to Uni in september with all these expectations of making new friends and having the time of my life. Let me tell you now.. That's not what has happened.... or at least not yet! Don't get me wrong, yeah I've made many new acquaintances but no one I've really gelled with. This made me think 'am i doing it wrong?!?' like obviously I knew it was going to be hard to make friends but not this hard. I'm three months in and I still find myself sat in my bedroom watching Dinner Date when I should be out socialising.
During Freshers I personally found it hard to go out all the time, I'm not a big drinker anyway but I still made an effort to get dressed up and go out. Not as much as others but still, the effort was there. I found myself to be apart of quite a big group of people from my accommodation that at the time I was in the ''wow this was so easy I love these peeps'' mind set... but after time, you get to know peoples habits and how they are when they are drunk and this wakes you up from the Freshers dream and makes you realise the people you thought got you don't get you at all.
I also think I pulled the short straw with my Living situation. I got into University through Clearing and this led me to live with a girl in 2nd year (of whom already had her friends in the flat a few doors down), Two foreign exchange students (two guys from Turkey and France) and another boy in the same situation as me. The English guy that I live with was also apart of the same friendship group .. and even he has decided they were cliquey and hard to get on with. Maybe we aren't big enough characters or maybe we are just freaks.. who knows. Anyway.. he made some friends on his course and has already sorted where he is living next year. The jammy git!! But, anyhow what I cant stop questioning is that if I didn't come in through clearing would I be having a better experience if I was in a normal flat with all 1st years like me?!.. Then surely at i would have least 3 more people who I could have potentially found a best friend in or at least someone to watch Dinner Date with.
But then again.. I've never been a person to have many friends, I've always kept a small group of 1 or 2, so hardly a group at all. I do have 'separate' friends though, people I've met over time individually from Jobs and mutuals of mutuals kinder thing; but never a big group.
Another thing you should know, Sharing living space with 4 other people is a mighty challenge.. at first the kitchen and living room was always clean, but as the days became weeks and the weeks became months, Oh how that changed. HOW CAN PEOPLE LIVE IN SUCH DIRT! if you like a clean kitchen and a nicely smelling home, then just don't live with others. you go buy your self a studio room and eat where you ****! because honestly, when you live with people who leave their curry in the fridge, and cooking oil from the eggs they just fried on the stove you'll want to boil your brocolli in the bath. Believe me. A top tip from me is to definitely buy some Febreeze and carry that bugger in your pocket. you'll need it for when the bins are brimming and the milk is turning.
Thats it for now I guess.. ran out of things to say. I'm sure I'll think of more for next time.
Anyway, Ciao for now
MOAM x
